I’ve got an ex boyfriend. When he wasn’t an ex boyfriend, we obviously used to hang out a lot and when you get that close with somebody, you get to see each other’s habits, things they do and don’t do and sides of each other that other people just have no other reason to see.
Me being the person I am, I have quite a long skin care routine. It used to be much longer and had it’s dedicated bathroom time, in the mornings and the evenings where I did things like – exfoliate, wax and pluck, face mask, wash, moisturize, oil and many other attributes depending on the time, season or state of my face. My boyfriend would always be sitting on his phone, or watching the television and when I handed him my lip balm, finalising my routine, he looked at me like I handed him over the most alien product.
“You rub it on your lips.”
He took the lip balm from my hand and takes an incredibly small amount. I urge him to take more and show him what I do instead.
It was just a random thought, something I’ve always wanted to address and talk about, but do guys really know a thing about looking after themselves?
I’m not sure if it’s coming from an Asian background, or the fact that I’m just a girl, but if there’s one thing my mom has always drilled into my brain, is that I need to exfoliate every part of my skin, I need to moisturize every part afterwards and if I think that it’s long and tiring and useless, my body and skin will thank me in the future.
It’s not only my future self, though. As I’ve created a routine, researched into my skin type and products, my mental and physical being just feel so much better. It is a form of self care, as it’s true dedicated time where you spend some time with yourself each day, take a break from the world and social media and you’re dedicating your time and energy directly into yourself. Plus, you look good. You learn how to bring out your skin’s natural glow, your spots will begin to lighten, your texture begins to smooth out and overall, you feel a bunch better.
So, why is it a girl thing?
Honestly, I changed that boy’s life when I gave him his own moisturiser and lip balm.
This is a challenge for the guy’s that read my blog. Go out and buy some face products, honey. Chill out tonight. Light a candle, listen to your favourite playlist, slap on a face mask and moisturize your skin till your heart’s content. You’ll thank me later.
I promise this doesn’t make you any less of a man.
If you’re a girl and you’ve read this and there was a specific guy that came to mind while reading this, send this straight over to him. Let’s get all the guys in our lives to actually start taking the time out to look after themselves!
Let me know how it goes.
Shout Out Section
Today I’ve got one blog post for you guys, as I found it related so hard to this post, I just had to share it.
lauralandx // The Ultimate Autumn Self Care Rituals
In this post, Laura talks about the time in the week she takes out to unwind and dedicate the evening to herself, as well as what she tends to do on those relaxing days.